Getting Out When Your Partner Refuses to Change – Here’s What You Need to Know

When to Get Out

If you’re in a relationship with someone who refuses to change, you might find yourself asking when it’s the right time to leave. Many different factors play into this answer. One of the most natural ways to determine if it’s time to get out is if the relationship keeps you from acting like yourself. 

Have you put so much into your partner that you’ve lost some of yourself? Or, do you feel as though you can’t truly be yourself around them? You can’t be expected to walk on eggshells for the rest of your life, after all. 

It’s also a sign to get out when no amount of discussion seems to change things. You can talk to your partner about the issues in your relationship over and over again. But if it’s clear that all of the talks in the world will never make a difference, you’re wasting your time and energy. 

Learning to Love Yourself

It’s not uncommon to stay in a relationship because you’re worried about being alone. Even if you’re not happy in the relationship due to your partner’s behaviors, it’s better than being alone, right?

Wrong. 

That’s why it’s so important to practice self-love and self-care consistently. You may have put so much of yourself into the relationship and trying to help your partner that you’ve forgotten to take care of yourself. Once you start to do that again, you can feel better about getting out of the relationship. 

It’s Not Your Fault

It’s important to remember that it’s not your fault if your partner won’t change. No one is perfect, and accepting flaws is a part of any healthy relationship. But, if someone’s actions and behaviors have continuously caused problems, you can’t put that weight and guilt on yourself. 

If you’ve put forth every effort to save your relationship, express your needs, and communicate with your partner, that’s about all you can do. 

If they refuse to change, let that burden be on them. They might try to guilt you into staying, thinking you can “fix” their problems or telling you that you need to make changes too. Assure yourself that this isn’t your fault, so you can move on and find freedom. 

It’s never easy to be in a relationship with someone who won’t change. No matter how desperately you might want things to work, you can’t force someone to flip who they really are completely.

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Are you in a relationship where your partner refuses to change? After a while, it can start to feel overwhelming and hopeless, but you’re not alone.

Feel free to contact me or visit our couples counseling page to learn more about how you can get out of the relationship healthily. 

It’s not always easy to end a commitment with someone you love. When it comes to your own mental and emotional health, sometimes getting out of the relationship is the best option.